Want to hear a surprising sex tip?Whenever I've read sex books (for magazine work, I swear!), they always seem to recommend a bunch of tricks: acrobatics, role play, the whole shebang. But I've found one of the sexiest things is to just...
...be quiet. Lie with your partner in bed--with your clothes on or off, it doesn't matter. No talking or kissing; just lie together. Be still. Feel the warmth of each other. Look into each other's eyes, trace his eyebrows, hug tightly, rub her back, hold hands. Wrap your arms around each other. Press your bodies close together.
But absolutely no kissing or talking.
This quiet closeness is surprisingly profound. And really, really, really sexy. The tension builds to a fever pitch, and once you finally can't take it any more and start kissing, it's like fireworks are exploding. You feel incredibly connected, and even the most basic sex will suddenly be off the charts.
Have you ever done this? It's amazing! I'm blushing! Try it this weekend;)
P.S. How long do you wait to sleep with someone? And an easy tip for keeping the sparks alive.(Photos from W&D)
I agree! You hear all about these extreme (sometimes embarrassing) things you're supposed to do. This seems so excitingly different and simple.
ReplyDeletewow. so trying this.
ReplyDeleteSo simple, loving, and tender!
ReplyDeletemy hubs and i do this a lot, but we end up snuggling into comfortable positions and fall asleep like kittens. not so sexy, but still one of our favorite things to do :)
ReplyDeletehave you ever tried having sex while you have guests in the house or are guests in someone's house? you try to do it as quietly as possible and it becomes so so intense and sexy that way!
ReplyDeleteI did this with my husband once. Just laid together in bed completely naked while the sun streamed in through the windows (yay for sunday afternoons!). After doing this for a while, we then had some of the best sex of our entire marriage.
ReplyDeletei love those quiet sexy moments, looking with each other. it's the simple moments that remind you why you're together and can be so sexy!
ReplyDeleteWhat Jen said!!
ReplyDeleteso so true.
ReplyDeleteThe slower the better, men just don't get that.
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yes yes yes yes yes! i am dating someone now and we do this every night we're together :) before & after sex or whatever else happens, and it's seriously the most intensely wonderful feeling in the world. never gets old & makes everything else so much more intimate and fun.
ReplyDeletea sweet and sensual sex tip ;)
ReplyDeleteYes, I have. So good and spontaneous.
ReplyDeleteI feel like this is especially good for a busy, sleep deprived Mom like myself. Intimacy, isn't always easy to prioritize. This sounds simple and rejuvenating, not to mention sexy! ;)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! It's crazy sexy!
ReplyDeleteThat is the way to do it, forget that weird stuff!
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You are awesome Joanna :)
ReplyDeleteYeah girl this is what's up!!! I agree 100%. Please write a sex book. Just sayin'.
ReplyDeleteI love this... I totally agree. You don't need a magazine to tell you what to do!
ReplyDeleteI love this little tip! So sweet and simple and puts the emphasis on intimacy and love (not just pure, lusty sex - which definitely has its place too!)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the tip ;)
ReplyDeleteYep, what it's all about. And No rootling about in a drawer for some ridiculous toy. Intimacy pared down to its sexy best!
ReplyDeleteI agree with what Jen said.. something so sneaky about doing it when guests are in the other room. I have not tried this but love the tip and will definitely give it a go!
ReplyDeletediana banana, that is cute:)
ReplyDeleteJen, so true! at my grandparents' house one time; we came back downstairs with rosy cheeks, i think everyone knew what was up:) embarrassing:)
ReplyDeleteThis was how I kissed my college boyfriend the first time and it was one of the most intimately amazing moments of my life. It didn't end up in sex, but we didn't need it to, just ending up kissing for the first time was amazing. It seriously still makes me tingle to think about it. Sadly, he passed away from cancer a few years ago (we were still together, still had amazing chemistry). Ahhhhh, thanks for bringing up such a wonderful memory for me.
ReplyDeleteReminds me of the scene from City of Angels where she tries to get her lame doctor bf to do this with her, the way she does with Nic Cage. Then he laughs in her face and she gets annoyed.
ReplyDeleteI'm all about hands. Touching each other's hands. My favorite thing about my husband next to his dimples ;)
Usually these "sex tips" you read are so cheeseballs (I'm talking to you, Cosmo) and totally irrelevant to any normal person's reality, but this seems so sweet and logical and doable! Thanks for the blush-inducing tidbit, might just have to give this one a shot.
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Nice to hear. A clean, loving way to do it. In the dating world, and relationship world sometimes I get really confused about all the expectations. The expectation is... love. :)
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ReplyDeleteI swear you have some kind of telepathic energy in you or something. Almost every post you've made about dating/love/sex, it's happened to me the day before. Or a few days before. Seriously. The peeing thing in front of your boyfriend or husband... Now this...
Did this with my boyfriend last night with a candle on and some soft music. It was really really sweet. And sexy. Probably sexier than having sex.
total HAWWWTNESS! I gotta remember this the next time it happens, hehehe. I've become a big fan of patience and letting the emotions build up. It seems like it would feel so much more sensual and satisfying.
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I've done this- It's nice and all but I'm a big kisser. LOVE me some kisses for hours! My old sex rule before I was married was this. If I liked a guy and/or thought he had boyfriend potential, I waited about 3 dates. If I liked him but didn't really see a future together? I probably slept with him immediately. Funny thing is? The ones I thought had no potential and was slutty with? Turned out to be longer relationships than the others who I held out for. Go figure!
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ReplyDeleteMan, I've never had sex before, stuff like this just bums me out.
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ReplyDeletewow. it feels so magnetic in a very subtle way. i dunno if me and my partner have that same ability. but will give it a go when it is right. thanks for the tip. :-)
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This came at the perfect time for me (and my marriage.) Thanks :)
ReplyDeleteI have tried this before, and it's more intimate than sex. It is strange at first but it is when you can be quiet with someone and not have to fill the void of no sound or actions that you truly become comfortable with someone.
ReplyDeleteGood tip!
I think this is great because it brings back the feeling of just observing and experiencing someone like you do at the beginning of a relationship. It brings back the tension of not knowing who will make the first move and when - which is where all the excitement comes from at the beginning!!
ReplyDeleteI wish! My husband has inattentive adult add - there is no way just laying there is silence would keep his attention, unfortunately :(
ReplyDeletethis sounds awesome. you can make it either loving, tender, and sweet OR hot and passionate. or both! can't wait to try :)
ReplyDeleteum, is this why the temper pedic was so nice? ;) ;)
ReplyDeleteanticipation is really, really sexy. love the tip!
ReplyDeletesimple is best, it all about eye contact. I been doing the Art of series and that exactly what trying to say in it when comes to seduction. You don't have to use 900 props, it all about those moments when together that count.
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My husband and I do this but usually because I am just to tired to do the deed. (I'm pregnant) But it is so romantic to just touch all those little parts of someone you love that don't get a lot of attention while love-making. My husband has such smooth skin, I love touching all his smooth parts, (belly, hips, shoulders even his feet)
ReplyDeleteLove this. Want to try it.
ReplyDeleteSimple is the way to go...
ReplyDeleteIn the end it is all about intimacy and love... Right.
I have done this many times...it really is explosive in the end. Doesn't have to be hours you're quiet like this, but maybe an hour...then start kissing and see how long your clothes last. I also recommend an extended make out session before sex, old school: petting kissing touching but nothing else. Sex is so much better when you're connected by your desire.
ReplyDeleteI thought all couples do this? In our house we just call it cuddling. "And if we happen to have sex afterwards, then so be it," says my husband with a grin.
ReplyDeletei've tried it a couple of times and you'are right, the basic thing seems to be the most exciting and awesome feeling afterward.
ReplyDeleteyowza!! Love it:)
ReplyDeleteI will let you know how this one works out tonight....haha, thanks!
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We do this a lot. He suggests we 'snuggle in bed naked' and it's like fireworks every time!
ReplyDeletesounds interesting!
ReplyDeleteI dated a Cuban and my friend dated a Peruvian and this is a very big thing in their culture. My ex called it careños, and it's basically cuddling all night and nothing else. Which seriously just makes you want it more.. enjoy!
ReplyDeleteI may be missing the point, but it seems to me like you're just describing snuggling!
ReplyDeleteSounds perfect ;) xxx
ReplyDeleteI agree about the sex books- they are all way too over the top. You should check out "Passionista." I think you'll find it very inspiring. :)
ReplyDeleteawesome tip! i need to try this soon. seems very loving
ReplyDeleteamazing and romantic tip. you look like a romance master. amazing
ReplyDeleteYou are so absolutely right! You pick up so much more from a person intimately without the complications of words. Beautiful piece, Joanna!
ReplyDeleteThis sounds absolutely TERRIFYING! I have been with my husband for around 14 years, 8 of those married and that sounds like the scariest thing ever. So please post on how to get over this!
ReplyDeleteI think this works for two people in love, but if I'm not actually in a relationship with the person, the dude might find it awkward.
ReplyDeleteThis definitely works when two people appreciate PDA. My best friend (better term) is the best cuffler & I so enjoy touching him, clothes on too and "absorbing" every quality I enjoy about him. Its not about his looks but the amazing feeling this exudes for both. Great post, thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteyou know I have done this but I'd forgotten!!! you are right though, it's very hot. Also trying to stay totally quiet can really add something sometimes
ReplyDeleteGreat tip. Trying that one TONIGHT!
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We did this once and end up caressing and hot kissing and one of the most memorable experiences with my baby.
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